“Fear regret more than failure.”
~Taryn Rose
“Fear regret more than failure.”
~Taryn Rose
“The expert in anything was once a beginner”
Oh how we forget this… We look at people and admire them for their skills and knowledge in certain areas. We allow that admiration to morph into intimidation. We start to question our own abilities and tell ourselves we are good enough to match those experts. We sell ourselves short.
We end up not applying for that job, not going out for the team, not bothering to delve deeper into our hobbies.
What if all the “experts” of their fields would have thought like that? It sure would have been a waste of unknown talent…
Change change change….
Change is good. Yet most of us are scared of it. We get comfortable where we are and what we are doing in a multitude of scenarios. We know we have to “let things play” and we are told that “nothing is perfect” so when things aren’t good we accept it as gospel. But we have to embrace change. For one, it will always happen, like it or not, you will never be able to avoid it.
You will grow up. Your skills will change. Some will improve, others will go away altogether. Your interests will change, or they should. You don’t ever have to lose your old interests but you should be going out and exploring the world. It would be hard to imagine anyone not finding anything else that interests him or her besides what they already know.
All progress includes moving forward. Pretty logical right? But most people will stammer and stall and wonder about moving forward. We put a lot of effort into becoming comfortable with what we have. Its never easy to be the new guy in any situation, from a relationship to a new job setting.
You have two choices: 1) you can let the world pass you by and accept what falls into your lap, or 2) you can actively chase what outcomes YOU want. Regardless of the choice you make, the world will continue to spin.
I recently made some forward progress myself. (My apologies because I know it affected my posting) I spent 13 years in a job that was my dream job. It still is. But I felt I was ready for a new challenge. I’m the type of person who likes to have goals and projects that I am working towards. But I fell into a rut over the years. I actually hate to say rut because I excelled in my field and enjoyed being the experienced person who could answer questions and train new people. But ultimately I wanted to do more for me. But I was hesitant to leave my dream job fearing that everything I love about it would be hard to outdo.
With much support and soul searching I took the leap to explore more of my world. I actually stayed in my field, so it’s still very much my dream job. But it’s an entirely different aspect of it. It has only been 2 weeks but I am loving it. I have a lot to learn but have been able to bring my experiences with me.
I always look at our retirement bulletins at work. They always post a condensed version of the persons resume listed the areas they have worked and some of their accomplishments. I always feel sad when I see a person has only done one thing for X amount of years. I get motivated when I see someone who has been all over the company, using all different kinds of skills. Imagine the knowledge and experiences he or she has picked up over the years.
No one would have forced my hand. They wont force yours either. Opportunities will come and go. They will float right past you. Some will be better than others. But ultimately it will be up to you to reach for one of them and take the risk.
Take the risk – it’ll either be a blessing or a lesson.
– Men’s Health magazine
What reasons do you have for talking yourself out of taking a risk? If it poses an outcome that will leave you worse off then maybe it’s a risk not worth taking. Most of the time we find ourselves scared of change just because it’s the unknown. But that’s what makes life a journey.
Make your journey count. Staying in a safe bubble of familiarity can be, well safe. But progress isn’t made by standing still.
“Just do it”
-Nike
It’s as simple as that. “Just do it”. Try, seize the opportunity.
Ask her out, apply for the job, go where you have not gone before.
Maybe you’ll fail, maybe you’ll succeed – but you will know.
“Fail fast and move on.. Everything, failure or success, is a lesson. But each requires action to begin.”