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The social media acknowledgment, specifically the birthday reminders; some say this digital act is informal, heartless, and insincere. Clearly this is not the best method to use for your loved ones and those closest to you. Reach out to them, talk to them, maybe even spend the day with them when the occasion comes up. But don’t completely disregard the small act of using social media for wishing someone a happy birthday or “thinking of you.”

You never know what’s going on in someone’s life. Social media has given us the tools to keep in touch, or at least up to date, with people that we would probably otherwise lose touch with altogether.

Around the time of my birthday I had all kinds of things on my mind that had me stressed out. Some people knew about these things but most didn’t. So needless to say, I felt kind of alone at times. But I remember seeing the birthday wishes from people from all stages of my life, who are also geographically all over the world now. It didn’t take those people more than 10 seconds and zero money to write a three word post and send it off. But it meant the world to me.

Some of those people I still see and talk to on a somewhat regular basis. But for many of them, we only stay connected through social media. When I saw their posts and birthday wishes, it was so uplifting. It was more than just seeing that they were wishing me a happy birthday. It was a moment where I reminisced in my mind about how or when those people paths crossed mine. And I am a huge believer that everything happens for a reason!

Now knowing what it meant to me, I make it a point everyday to acknowledge those reminders and reach out to say a quick hello.

Don’t discount those small random acts that you may think are informal, insincere, and meaningless. You have no idea what that other person may be going through at that time and it just might mean the world to them.

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The holiday season comes upon us quicker than we always expect. One minute we are trying to figure out what character we want to be for Halloween and before we know it we are scurrying to make Thanksgiving plans and we have become the last minute shoppers trying to cross everything off our lists. It comes up fast and we see story after story of charitable giving and people without homes attending civic services to make sure everyone is included in the festivities. But we often forget about the people that get lost in between the down and out and the well to do.

There are still people out there dealing with loss and pain for a whole number of reasons. Some have lost loved one, some are losing loved ones, and some are just not able to be with the ones they love over the holidays. They appear normal, they smile, and they may not show their pain.

As you’re rushing around and wrapping your presents, don’t forget to reach out to those in the middle. A phone call, a text, an invite to dinner can make a world of difference to someone.

Also don’t forget to be grateful for what you have, however little, because there is undoubtedly someone out there with less…less to eat, less to unwrap, and less to make them smile. Be thankful when you wake up and have your family around you, that they are not hundreds of miles away, that you don’t have to be away from them for the day.

I had the opportunity to move on to new adventures years ago, but the downside is that it took me a good distance away from friends and family. It was a good choice to go, but it also means that we have to pick and choose the days we get to spend together.

The friends I have made over the years have become life family to me and I’m grateful to have each and every one of them. But even with them, my line of work has often taking me away in the middle of the night, on the weekends, and over the holidays. Fortunately I finally have enough time in where that doesn’t happen too often anymore, but when it does it makes me realized what I have.

So just a quick reminded that when uncle **** and cousin who know who start to drive you crazy, it’s still nice to have family near- by, at least for the day 😉

  
You’ll read a ton of tips this season teaching you how to be a good host. But people never talk about being a good guest. You probably won’t even appreciate that thought until you begin to host people at your house for a meal, or a weekend, or longer … 

It’s great to have company and to catch up with old friends and family. But hosting takes work, and can take a toll on someone’s sanity with the wrong types of guests. 

  1. Be on time. You can’t control your flights and traffic problems. And no one will mind a few minutes here and there. But if dinner is at 3:00, arriving at 5:30 is unacceptable. 
  2. If you are picky or need certain criteria met. Say so ahead of time or suck it up. Your host wants to cater to you and share what they have. No one likes hearing you ate before coming to dinne or refuse to eat what is being served.
  3. If you’re staying for a couple days, prepare to and offer to entertain yourself for a couple hours or even a day. Go sight seeing, go for a walk, explore the neighborhood. You host may appreciate the moment of downtime to throw in the laundry, clean up the house a bit, or just take a breath. 
  4. Do some research ahead of time and have a few ideas of things you like to do or see. There is nothing harder than trying to guess what will make people happy or keep their interest. Different people have different ideas of fun.
  5. Offer to help the host but also accept being the guest. Don’t take over their house – allow the host to host you. 
  6. Don’t treat the house like your home, but treat it like their home. No need for you to be rearranging how they keep things or to allow kids to “explore” every room. 
  7. Don’t come empty handed. If you can’t cook, bring a bottle of wine or buy an appetizer. (I personally always bring one bottle of red and one bottle of white – can’t go wrong). 
  8. Take note at how they keep their house. Leave the bathroom relatively like you found it. If you found wet towels laying on the floor, then it’s probably cool with them if you do it 😉 
  9. Read the crowd. If everyone else has left or gone to bed, check with the host and see if it’s time to go.
  10. Don’t forget to return the favor. Don’t always be the guest. Offer to to be the host once in a while – and hope your guest have read this article too! 

“Where the heart is willing, it will find a thousand ways. Where it is unwilling, it will find a thousand excuses.”

~Arlen Price

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It’s been said that if you read three books on any given topic in a year, you are considered an expert in that field. Perhaps this is comprising your new found knowledge to the average joe. But 3 books are better than zero, but it certainly can’t be all encompassing. 

It takes passion to take on a new subject of knowledge, a new sport, or a new job. I think it’s more popular to stay status quo and simply remain afloat with what we already know. But where does that get us? It’s true, nobody likes being the new guy who is learning all the baby steps that everyone takes for granted. But you have to start somewhere. 

Hopefully the topic you’re pursuing is something of passion for you, which should make it easier to unleash your curiously and desire to learn. If it’s not, I’d question what you are doing dealing with this topic in the first place!

Ditch the fear of being the new guy, and ditch the fear of learning those baby steps. There will always be someone out there who knows more than you. And if, by some chance, you think you know more than everyone else, stop and listen and realize that you can always learn from others, even if it’s only a different point of views.

The phrase “I stand on the shoulders of giants”, thought to have originated with Isaac Newton (although it can be traced back much further) sums it up: use the knowledge of those that came before you to inspire you, to teach you, and to shed light on new topics.

Think of what you knew 10 years ago. Now compare it to today. There should be a drastic difference between the two. If not, you are cheating yourself out of all the great things this word offers. We hold a world of knowledge in our hands every day. If you don’t have time to take a class or earn a degree, fire up the Internet and start learning something new! 

  

 


I’ve said before, and I’m sure you’ve heard it many times that we all have the same 24 hours every day. From the overachievers to the underachievers, it all comes to down to what you do with YOUR 24 hours.

I’m fortunate enough to live in an area where there is always something going on or where there is always something to do. From community events, to sporting events, to weather that allows me to pursue my hobbies on any given day. Not to mention, I have great friends that are always up to doing things I enjoy.

I actually make lists of things going on when I see them and when the day comes, I have my choice of things to do depending on how I feel. (I’m not big on plans so this method works well for me). But honestly there is so much going on around me that there often isn’t enough time to do all the things that interest. It leads to me staying busy and having a blast most of the time. But it also leads to me having to say no to some invitations or choosing between one event or the other. (Rough life I know!) 

When I was younger this used to stress me out. I wanted to be part of everything and not miss anything. I think that’s pretty normal for people. But as I have become more comfortable with my own hobbies and interests, I simply do the things I choose. 

There are still only 24 hours in each day; I still don’t have time to do everything I want to do. But I don’t stress about it. I simply fill more of my days doing the exact things I choose to do.

Sometimes I choose to do absolutely nothing. I’ll stay at home, cook, have drinks, maybe commit to catching up on shows I have DVR’d, but that’s ok, because they are my hours to spend.

You have to live your life doing what makes you happy. Don’t chase someone else dreams, because you will miss out on your own. Their adventure means something completely different to them. You can bask in your happiness but you will still need to create your own.  Surround yourself with people that understand what your passions are and that allow you to enjoy them. 

Make sure you are alive and not just breathing.


 “The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience.”

~Eleanor Roosevelt

…Because we have all tried to hide some unsightly growth right before that big date/ meeting/ photo… Try it! 

(Disclaimer: I have not tried this but I will when I need to!)

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Does anyone like that type of person who complains, bitches, and find every negative point about everything they can? I personally cannot stand that. And I’ve found myself sucked in to the dark hole of negativity before. 

Every has complaints and wishes something was different, that’s human nature. And it actually a good thing to see how things can be improved. 

But don’t just sit there and complian and bash whatever idea or plan that’s thrown out there. Come up with something better. Wow the crowd. Quit being negative and work towards changing something if it bothers you that much. 

Stop the toxic victim mentality and look at your resources. Now take some action and at least work on bettering your own little bubble. But if your ideas are so magnificent then share then and enact them. 

The world moves forward on improvements. It gets stagnant with complaining and negativity. 

If you aren’t part of the solution, you are part of the problem.