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Call this a life hack or a man rule but you need this info to protect your spot when nature calls .

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You need this information – period!

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You only live once – and this world is huge and has so much to offer. And you deserve to see and learn new things. Make yourself worldly and just go!

Yes yes yes, life gets in the way. Money, kids – you name it. I don’t see these as any reason you still can’t explore. Take your kids to a park you normally don’t go to. Take snacks in the car and pick a direction and make a day or weekend trip.

It took a tiny bit of planning, but more mentally than anything else. (Trust me, I can say that because anyone who knows me knows I am a bad planner – not so much bad as just hate making plans!)

So we saw a three day weekend coming up and decided we were going to use it. We didn’t want to spend a lot and didn’t have much time to research things to do. So we came up with some quick ideas: Mexico for the beach, but we weren’t sure it was going to be warm enough or Palm Springs – because it sounded popular and we has never been there.

Palm Springs won. We found a very cheap hotel for a holiday weekend. And we got what we paid for.. Our room was a converted apartment with a functioning beauty salon in it. (That was closed for the weekend I guess!) it was probably last remodeled some time in the 70’s. But it got us to where we wanted to be for the weekend.

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We took our beach cruisers and rode around town and went off recommendations for restaurants from people we met at each meal. We also skipped Siri and used that old fashion tourist pamphlet rack in the hotel lobby.

We ended up seeing things way beyond our expectations. It was a great last minute trip. I commented on the way home that I felt like we did so much in a day and half yet I felt so relaxed.

So maybe you can’t drive to Palm Springs but everywhere has something to offer. But it’s up to you to go find it!

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So we are a couple weeks into the new year. You probably already had time to blow off some of your resolutions. Egh maybe next year .. No! Here is my challenge to you. (I wish I could take credit for this, but I owe it to a friend on Facebook.) Anyway, it very simple, it’s all you and and there is only one rule: try something new each week for a year. At the end of the year you will have 52 new experiences to reminisce about.

I have friends that are trying to visit a new place each week. I amended it slightly for my tastes by simply saying: do something new each week.

So for the first week, we spotted a coupon for a quirky rotating sushi bar in the area. We have probably driven by it a thousand times but picked a day and made it a point to go. It was pretty cool! Sure, I’ve had better sushi, but I had never been to a rotating sushi bar.

The second week we were feeling lazy and preparing for one of us to go out of town. So we picked a new recipe to cook. Nothing crazy, chicken Parmesan. But neither of us had ever made it from scratch. It’s actually pretty simple. And when my coworkers saw and smelled my lunch, they were pretty impressed.

So don’t over complicate it. Just do something new. Watch a foreign film, pick a direction and drive for a few hours, make a date of it or try to meet someone when you are on your adventure, just do something new to expand your world. You might find some new things to like. Or at least you’ll know for sure what you don’t like.

Break the routine, crawl out of that rut. Maybe you will be the world most interesting man!

One more thing: take pictures! Post your new experiences on social media. Think of the fun it will to look back at your year.!

You know you’ve asked this or have been asked ….

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Compliments of “BuzzFeed Life”

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I think it’s everyone’s ideal plan to find meaningful and satisfying work. Not everyone is driving to their dream job every morning, but I think most people mostly enjoy what they do. (If not I hope those people seek change fast!) but what about your non-working hours? You should enjoy your job and it will somewhat define you, but you have to have a personal life too.

More and more people I talk to do not know what they enjoy doing in their free time. I’m both baffled by this and yet not surprised. Once you update your status, put the kids to sleep, and get to your “me time”, what fills your head?

The possibilities are endless. And you have to have something to go to when you need to clear your mind or just simply seek pleasure.

Some of mine include cooking, motorcycles, trying new restaurants, watching football, running, being outdoors, and traveling. And that really is only the tip of the iceberg for me. So it seems hard to believe that someone wouldn’t know what they enjoy doing. Yet, so many people have not taken time to discover themselves or simply don’t pursue their interests.

It’s these interests that will define you outside of work. It’s these interests that will keep you sane when work gets rough (and it will). And it’s these interests that can be the foundation of a job that is truly one of your dream jobs.

Don’t be the person seeking every hour of overtime the boss offers. Spend time with your kids. Make plans with your significant other. And if you are without either of those – go make some friends and enjoy everything this world has to offer. Otherwise, you might need to ask yourself what you are working for in the first place …

Some people need direction. Some people seem to make every wrong decision possible. But lets assume you are a pretty logical person. Even if you have some different goals and different interests. Maybe your parents wanted you to be a lawyer and still question your decisions. That’s ok. They are parents and they are people. And everyone has an opinion. But make sure you have your own also.

You’ll see your friends buy new shiny and expensive things. It will move you. Maybe it will even make you angry. (Admit it – you’ve gotten angry.) But don’t. Be your own person. Create your own kingdom.

If the things you want happen to match your neighbors – so be it. Just make sure your decisions – decisions to buy, decisions to act – are your own. If you can manage that then you are golden.

People will always question your decisions. But you are not there to make sure everyone else is happy. They live their life and you live yours. If it works for you and the people that depend on you then go ahead with your bad self. Once someone else is cutting the check or walking in your shoes, then they can make decisions for you.

Everyone has one life to live, so make sure you are getting what you want out of it.

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You’re bladder will thank you for
knowing this !

I was a a little tied up last week dealing with a life long fear. It’s nothing crazy – I was not battling cancer, swimming with sharks, or crawling through snakes – I was asked to speak in front of a group and present a topic. Yea yeah yea I know this is not ultimate craziness but the elements behind it go deeper.

I have always been out spoken and very friendly. Ever since I was able to speak I was known to talk to anyone and everyone – about just about anything! But when assigned with the task I would always freeze up. From class assignments throughout school to best man speeches, public speaking has always just hit me the wrong way.

I was very aware of this fear and analyzed myself over and over again. Why was I so afraid?? I truly don’t know but here is what I came up with: I was not confident that people would want to hear what I have to say. I was fearful that those I would be speaking to would jump up and correct what I was saying. Maybe I was fearful of being judged. All of this despite that my daily role involved taking charge of groups and being an authority figure.

So when I was asked last week, at the last minute, to present at a local university I felt like this was my chance. Well, first every fear and negative thought about public speaking hit me. Only after that I decided – quite literally – the hell with it. I talk to people all the time. I know my topic because it’s my life. I decided I would just talk to the group like I was talking anyone else any other day.

I had one day to prepare for a 30 minute slot, with a question and answer portion. I felt good – then I worried that I wouldn’t be able to fill up 30 minutes !

In the end the professor of the class cancelled the second hour she had planned and allowed me to continue speaking. I spoke for over 2 hours. I was told it was the most engaged the class had ever been. I was honored to hold their attention! More importantly I was so glad I did not let fear control me.

Judging by the feedback, I owned it. That’s not easy for me to say because I’m normally modest. But how many times have you been your own worst enemy and held yourself back from your potential?

What do you have inside you? What will it take for YOU to believe in YOU. Fear is ok. Try it. If it doesn’t work out, step back and regroup. But get back In there. If you don’t give yourself a chance – who will??