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It would be nice to know which decision you were supposed to make each step of the way as you move through life. But life is not that simple. We all get to have different experiences, different emotions, different goals, and different preferences, You always have to be true to your own heart and follow your own path.

Even those closest to you may question your decisions and not see what you see, but that’s ok, because it’s not their path. People get caught up trying to model the path they have seen others take, regardless if it seems like the best option. But people see a path that has already been forged easier than blazing their own.

Have you ever taken a vacation? Which is more fun, experiencing things on your own and finding hidden gems or following the path and suggestions that someone else has provided for you? Both may be fun, but in the latter you are riding on the heels of those before you. Don’t be afraid to to be your own explorer.

Life is your book to write. And it has to be written to your standards. Anything less will leave you displeased. This means you may have to make the unpopular decision at times, take the path least recommended, and go against peoples advice.

But remember, this is your story to tell. Be true to yourself.

Some people need direction. Some people seem to make every wrong decision possible. But lets assume you are a pretty logical person. Even if you have some different goals and different interests. Maybe your parents wanted you to be a lawyer and still question your decisions. That’s ok. They are parents and they are people. And everyone has an opinion. But make sure you have your own also.

You’ll see your friends buy new shiny and expensive things. It will move you. Maybe it will even make you angry. (Admit it – you’ve gotten angry.) But don’t. Be your own person. Create your own kingdom.

If the things you want happen to match your neighbors – so be it. Just make sure your decisions – decisions to buy, decisions to act – are your own. If you can manage that then you are golden.

People will always question your decisions. But you are not there to make sure everyone else is happy. They live their life and you live yours. If it works for you and the people that depend on you then go ahead with your bad self. Once someone else is cutting the check or walking in your shoes, then they can make decisions for you.

Everyone has one life to live, so make sure you are getting what you want out of it.

It’s good to have people to go to for advice. Sometimes they will reassure you by saying what you want them to say and sometimes they will tell you exactly what you don’t want to hear, but remember you were the one who asked.

Even the person with the best advice is going to have their opinions, experiences, and values mixed in with what they tell you. Don’t ever forget that.

Don’t be afraid to make your own decisions. Listen to the advice of others, evaluate it, but remember the decision remains in your hands. You will reap the benefits or learn from your own dismay. But you will own it either way.

You should be the most knowledgable about your situation. Knowledge breeds confidence.

So take the job, book the ticket, make the purchase, pop the question – you know what’s best for you. Trust your judgement.

Your needs matter too. Don’t ignore them. Sometimes you have to do what’s best for you and your life, not what’s best for everyone else.


Throughout the day I see people in real life and on the news making some very bad decisions .. I like to refer to them as short sighted decisions. But in reality it comes down to just being immature – so immature decisions if you prefer that.

See, here is how I get there: children act without thinking. They only know instant gratification. When they don’t get it, they scream, cry, and throw tantrums. They don’t think about the consequences or possible ramifications of their actions. It’s up to their parents to “teach” them that they can’t always have it their way. They are also teaching them patience, and problem solving skills.

BUT, not everyone gets these lessons apparently. We see people getting in fist fights over parking spots, walking away from fights only to return with a gun, or lashing out and striking someone. Sadly these aren’t even the worst reactions and short term decisions.

People lose their job and come back to shoot up their former office. In my town we recently had a man essentially kill two people (both who had families) over a $2500.00 lawsuit. He ended committing suicide as the police searched for him. What a sad outcome all around.

These short term decisions come to mind because these people don’t think about their actions. Lives ruined, people sent to prison all over things that can be so temporary, things that can be worked through or walked away from without the chaos.

Part of being a true man is being able to control your actions. You have to be able to see the big picture and think before you act. You have to realize the wave of consequences that come with your actions.

Remember children throw tantrums. Men are able to step back, take a breath, and choose their battles wisely.

Can you make big pictures decisions ?