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I’ve said before, and I’m sure you’ve heard it many times that we all have the same 24 hours every day. From the overachievers to the underachievers, it all comes to down to what you do with YOUR 24 hours.

I’m fortunate enough to live in an area where there is always something going on or where there is always something to do. From community events, to sporting events, to weather that allows me to pursue my hobbies on any given day. Not to mention, I have great friends that are always up to doing things I enjoy.

I actually make lists of things going on when I see them and when the day comes, I have my choice of things to do depending on how I feel. (I’m not big on plans so this method works well for me). But honestly there is so much going on around me that there often isn’t enough time to do all the things that interest. It leads to me staying busy and having a blast most of the time. But it also leads to me having to say no to some invitations or choosing between one event or the other. (Rough life I know!) 

When I was younger this used to stress me out. I wanted to be part of everything and not miss anything. I think that’s pretty normal for people. But as I have become more comfortable with my own hobbies and interests, I simply do the things I choose. 

There are still only 24 hours in each day; I still don’t have time to do everything I want to do. But I don’t stress about it. I simply fill more of my days doing the exact things I choose to do.

Sometimes I choose to do absolutely nothing. I’ll stay at home, cook, have drinks, maybe commit to catching up on shows I have DVR’d, but that’s ok, because they are my hours to spend.

You have to live your life doing what makes you happy. Don’t chase someone else dreams, because you will miss out on your own. Their adventure means something completely different to them. You can bask in your happiness but you will still need to create your own.  Surround yourself with people that understand what your passions are and that allow you to enjoy them. 

Make sure you are alive and not just breathing.


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 “The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience.”

~Eleanor Roosevelt

  

Do you live your life in mediocrity, staying with what you know, remaining in your comfort zone because you know you already have that figured out, or do you push yourself to your limits, trying something new, risking possible failure, but always reaching for a little bit more? 

Everyone likes sucess. When you do something well it’s easy to smile and pat yourself on the back. So why do we get cozy and stagnant? Once we make the climb we reach the plateau, but then what? Do you stay there? I hope not!

How about basking in your glory for a moment and then setting up for the next challenge. You can continue to do well with what you know or push the limits and risk doing “just ok” while you embrace a new skill. Soon that too will become easy, and should again become part of your foundation for the next challenge. 

If your always doing well and are acing  the challenge, maybe your bar is set too low. 

“There are no mistakes, no coincidences. All events are blessings given to us to learn from.”

~Elizabeth Kubler-Ross

                    

    



“Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happens.”

~Kahlil Gibran

                   

It always sucks to be the new guy – in any career field or job. It was especially hard for me because I’m so impatient by nature. I remember being mad that I wasn’t old enough to enter my field. And when I finally did, I was always in awe of my mentors stories, resumes, and accomplishments. 

Even people I knew who didn’t have formal educations had so much work experience, and life experience for that matter! That had real world expertise doing all the things I couldn’t wait to do – things that I dreamt of having the opportunity to do. 

Recently I was gathering some paperwork for some possible new ventures and had to gather my resume and transcripts. And I have to say it was a little ego boost. Not because I wanted to run through the streets bragging about anything but because I sat there and looked at classes I had taken, awards I had received, and it all led to different professional milestones in my life. 

After looking over everything I was very proud of myself for chasing my dream. I was the architect of my life. But not everything was perfect. I found “F’s” in some classes and old applications for jobs I didn’t get. But it made me smile to know that I tried and didn’t have to wonder what might have been. 

Don’t ever hesitate to chase your dreams. Go after what you want – because you want it. Don’t follow a path that someone else wants you to or deny yourself your dream because someone else thinks it won’t be good for you. You need to be the architect of your life, chase your dreams, and be able to look back and smile at all that you achieve. 

“You will never find time for anything. If you want time you must make it.”

~Charles Buxton

            

          

Does anyone like that type of person who complains, bitches, and find every negative point about everything they can? I personally cannot stand that. And I’ve found myself sucked in to the dark hole of negativity before. 

Every has complaints and wishes something was different, that’s human nature. And it actually a good thing to see how things can be improved. 

But don’t just sit there and complian and bash whatever idea or plan that’s thrown out there. Come up with something better. Wow the crowd. Quit being negative and work towards changing something if it bothers you that much. 

Stop the toxic victim mentality and look at your resources. Now take some action and at least work on bettering your own little bubble. But if your ideas are so magnificent then share then and enact them. 

The world moves forward on improvements. It gets stagnant with complaining and negativity. 

If you aren’t part of the solution, you are part of the problem. 

“I have learned from experience that the greater part of our happiness or misery depends on our dispositions and not on our circumstances.”

~Martha Washington

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Today is average day. I woke up knowing I had a training class at 9am. There are multiple times a year to go but I picked today.

I woke up, got ready, and hit the road just like any other day. Normally it’s about 35 minute drive to where I needed to but with traffic it’s about 45 minutes to an hour. Plenty of time…

But after I get on the road, it’s a gauntlet of accidents. Left lane blocked, right lane blocked, on and on and on. I can see everyone around me being frustrated in their cars. Vehicles jolting as they hit the brakes, a myriad of travel cups filled with coffee spilling all over the place. I started to see the traffic restrictions and realized it was going to take me well over an hour to make my destination. I started to stress. I hate being late. Then I zoned out or something because some kind of zen came over me.

I got in the slow lane and put my seat back. I decided why rush and still be late when I can just go another day and get more out of it? Then I remembered how hungry I was when I woke up. Next zen moment: I’m taking my lunch break early. A little pleasure of mine is breakfast with coffee in some small diner…

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Here I am. Enjoying this no name diner as I write. I’ll work through my would be lunch but I’ll already be full and much more relaxed. I’ll stay later if I need to so I can get done what I need to. And I’ll get to that class before the year is up – it’s only February !

Don’t mistake this day of detours as irresponsible. Sometimes there is no flexing and you have to stay rigid. But know when you can flex. Don’t be afraid to walk off your normal path. You’ll be ok. You might even be better !